Tuesday, December 5, 2017

Embrace The Hard Times To Make Room For The Good

I saw this quote today while doing my daily scroll through Pinterest, and couldn't help but stop and realize just how true it is. Even more so, as I laid on the couch, sick for the third day in a row, fighting an awful cold and just having been prescribed a puffer for what they say could be "allergy-induced asthma." My doctor and I laughed as we knew what the main issue was - I had recently gotten a second cat, and she loved to curl up in my bed with me every night. So despite knowing what the root cause of the issue was, we both knew there was no way the issue would be removed from my life. That kitten - and the horrible allergies - were here to stay.

But this quote did more than relate to me in that moment - it related to my entire life, and the lives of everyone else in this world. Life is full of ups and downs, we get that. The problem is, we often forget that. While dealing with a breakup, hitting our spoon to the bottom of a pint of Ben & Jerry's, we whimper through our sobs, "why me?" while forgetting that somewhere else out there in this harsh world, there is millions of girls and guys both doing the same thing, sobbing over the loss of a boyfriend, a girlfriend, a fiancĂ©, a cheating husband or wife, a fuckboy who left them waiting for a text all night, only to discover they were out with another girl the whole night. The point is: while in our depths of despair, we forget that life isn't fair; that life has ups and downs; mountains and valleys, but one of the most amazing things I've learned through therapy (which, I highly recommend for any twenty-something), it's that the valleys (hard times, cool downs, shitty life - whatever you want to call it) is where we learn our best lessons, regain our strength, before life moves us onto our next high (the mountains) where we can recover before life provides us yet another dip into the valley again. 

It's the same as this quote - "without rain, nothing grows, learn to embrace the storms in your life." So, if you lose your job, once the shock settles and you're left picking up the pieces of your life, and mapping out your: what now? Remember that this might have been the best thing to ever happen to you. Maybe you were unhappy in that job and needed a change, and fear stopped you, and so it was your employer who hit the trigger for you instead. Now, with the growth of this setback, you go onto a job that's better suited for you, or even take the plunge into the business you've been thinking of starting for years. Fear feeds on vulnerability, but the best times to seek the change you are seeking are in those rock bottom moments, where you have nothing else to lose, and it's only up from there. It's those moments in the midst of the current storm, that, like the raindrops, let the tears fall, but once that has passed and there's only gray skies left, it leaves you with the option to have this black cloud of depression follow you around OR you can opt for sanity, blue skies and much-needed change and do what it takes to regain control in your life. 

In short, appreciate the hard times. We all go through them, and it's just a part of life to go through the storms, but like the saying goes, "there's always a rainbow at the end," and in this case, it's the mountain view that you will climb, being on top of your life again, where you reboot and recharge, before life throws you through the next storm. Only this time, you will be more prepared and ready to handle it. 

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