Saturday, January 25, 2014

Don’t Be Afraid to Date Someone Who’s Like Your Ex

When it comes to our ex-boyfriends, besides the money we've gotten from pawning the jewellery they once gave us, we've also gained insight as to what we want and definitely don’t want in future partners. You may have vowed to stay away from guys like your ex, but what do you do in the event that you meet a seemingly great guy, butand here's the real kickerhe  reminds you completely of him. Do you a) break it off before a romantic relationship can even start or b) suck it up and realize that yes, while he may be a long lost twin of your ex, that doesn't mean that he is your ex. With these two guidelines in place, you'll be able to decide whether it's worth it or not to put your heart on the line again. 

Ask the important questions to determine common personality traits of your ex:

Getting to know this guy is extremely important if you want to decide whether or not to give him a chance. It's not easy to prod a stranger for information about their personal life, but if your ex-boyfriend cheated on you and you want to see if this guy has a similar history, be extra clever when asking questions. A good trick, for example, would go something like this. "My best friend is currently going through some guy troubles. Her boyfriend cheated on her, and she's trying to decide whether or not to stay with him. What do you think?" His answers to questions like these should help you determine if his relationship values match up with yours. 

Follow your instincts:

The best piece of advice I can give you, though, is to follow your gut. I've experienced this situation before and it confused the hell out of me, but by following your gut and trusting your instincts, just as you would in any relationship, you can determine whether or not you'll find yourself down the same road as before. Remember, hesitation is normal, but if red flags are waving around in your mind, it's probably a sign that its time to either stay single or go after different types of guys. 


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