Tuesday, December 5, 2017

Embrace The Hard Times To Make Room For The Good

I saw this quote today while doing my daily scroll through Pinterest, and couldn't help but stop and realize just how true it is. Even more so, as I laid on the couch, sick for the third day in a row, fighting an awful cold and just having been prescribed a puffer for what they say could be "allergy-induced asthma." My doctor and I laughed as we knew what the main issue was - I had recently gotten a second cat, and she loved to curl up in my bed with me every night. So despite knowing what the root cause of the issue was, we both knew there was no way the issue would be removed from my life. That kitten - and the horrible allergies - were here to stay.

But this quote did more than relate to me in that moment - it related to my entire life, and the lives of everyone else in this world. Life is full of ups and downs, we get that. The problem is, we often forget that. While dealing with a breakup, hitting our spoon to the bottom of a pint of Ben & Jerry's, we whimper through our sobs, "why me?" while forgetting that somewhere else out there in this harsh world, there is millions of girls and guys both doing the same thing, sobbing over the loss of a boyfriend, a girlfriend, a fiancĂ©, a cheating husband or wife, a fuckboy who left them waiting for a text all night, only to discover they were out with another girl the whole night. The point is: while in our depths of despair, we forget that life isn't fair; that life has ups and downs; mountains and valleys, but one of the most amazing things I've learned through therapy (which, I highly recommend for any twenty-something), it's that the valleys (hard times, cool downs, shitty life - whatever you want to call it) is where we learn our best lessons, regain our strength, before life moves us onto our next high (the mountains) where we can recover before life provides us yet another dip into the valley again. 

It's the same as this quote - "without rain, nothing grows, learn to embrace the storms in your life." So, if you lose your job, once the shock settles and you're left picking up the pieces of your life, and mapping out your: what now? Remember that this might have been the best thing to ever happen to you. Maybe you were unhappy in that job and needed a change, and fear stopped you, and so it was your employer who hit the trigger for you instead. Now, with the growth of this setback, you go onto a job that's better suited for you, or even take the plunge into the business you've been thinking of starting for years. Fear feeds on vulnerability, but the best times to seek the change you are seeking are in those rock bottom moments, where you have nothing else to lose, and it's only up from there. It's those moments in the midst of the current storm, that, like the raindrops, let the tears fall, but once that has passed and there's only gray skies left, it leaves you with the option to have this black cloud of depression follow you around OR you can opt for sanity, blue skies and much-needed change and do what it takes to regain control in your life. 

In short, appreciate the hard times. We all go through them, and it's just a part of life to go through the storms, but like the saying goes, "there's always a rainbow at the end," and in this case, it's the mountain view that you will climb, being on top of your life again, where you reboot and recharge, before life throws you through the next storm. Only this time, you will be more prepared and ready to handle it. 

Tuesday, October 17, 2017

Make This Fall Your Coziest Ever With These Tips

With summer gone, you might be feeling all sorts of sad and wistful for the lazy, hot days of summer to come back. For it being dress weather and accessorizing your shorts and t-shirts with a pair of shades. All those things have come to an end, but the thing most of us forget is how amazing fall is for our fashion. Sure, it's colder and snow will soon be coming, but with the chill in the air comes the need to bundle up. Cozy up. Sweaters, chunky scarfs, fashionable boots, fuzzy socks, hot tea or coffee always in hand, you name it, fall has all of it in store.

So if you want to make this your coziest fall yet, then read along for the best tips from myself, who, if I do say so myself, is the master of all things cozy ;) 

Fall fashion

Cozy at-home setups 

Your favourite hot drink

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

5 Simple Ways To De-Stress Right Now

And when I say right now, I mean it. The pressure of life can build on a moment's notice, escalating from worrying a bit about something into a full-blown attack of anxiety, where our mind races, we feel helpless and we just need some damn peace. Feeling this way at the moment? We'll you've come to the right place as I've been in your spot before and these five simple ways to de-stress are easy, painless and will totally have you feeling Zen in no time. 

Spend time with friends

Part of de-stressing is the ability to distract yourself. And who could do that better than someone who knows you best? They could take you out for a drink, come over to watch Netflix or even be a shoulder to cry on as you talk about your bad day. Friends have shoulders for a reason - lean on them. You'll be glad you did. 

Go for a drive

When we're stressed, one of the best things for our mind is for it to go on auto-pilot - the sort of feeling you get when you've been doing something you like for a while, say knitting for example, where you get lost in the present moment and look back afterwards and say, "Wow, I haven't thought about my anxiety for a while." And it's the feeling you get when you drive and somehow get to point b, only to look back and wonder how you got there - your body and mind was on autopilot. 

So, if you're feeling stressed, go for a drive, blast some tunes, pick up a friend, just allow the freeing feeling of being out on the open road center your mind. 

Drink tea

Calming teas are so essential when you're feeling stressed. The warm liquid will soothe your soul and its properties, especially teas like lavender and lemon balm, will activate the parametric nervous system and this, calm you down. Aim for several cups per day, and always let the tea steep for 15 minutes to maximize its benefits. 

Add to the relaxation by curling up with a good book as you drink it, or apply a face mask. 

Write down your worries and make a plan to manage each

Worrying feeds on a loss of control - you feel like you can't control what goes on at work, what your friends or family are doing, how busy the train will be that day, etc. This creates high levels of anxiety and rumination that can wreak havoc on the mind, disrupting its peace. 

What you need to do if you are worrying excessively is write down a list of your fears - you can even call this your "Worry Period" and then write down a plan to manage each. For example, if you're worried about how busy the train will be on your commute to work, you can plan ahead by making sure to bring a good book to distract you from the large amount of people crowding your space, or even decide to go a little earlier to catch the less busy train. The most important thing to remember, though, is that you do have control, even when it doesn't feel like it. 

Thursday, March 23, 2017

Are We Willing To Make The Hard Decisions For Love?

I was editing an article today, about the most surprising moments on 'The Bachelor' and in the introduction, it writes, 

"Then, there was the time Jason Mesnick proposed to contestant Melissa Rycroft, only to change his mind at the 'After the Rose' ceremony and propose to Molly instead. Fortunately, that little flub worked out for Jason, as he and Molly are still married to this day and even have a child together"

Bam. It was the same thing that I would write in relation to Jason's controversial move. And then, it got me thinkingas much as Jason received heat for what he did and the very public way that he did so (more on that later), Jason is the one laughing now because he got to live his happily ever after. And all because he made the tough choices when it comes to love. 

Love is never easy. Maybe we've been in a situation before where our heart was pulling us in two different directions, like, say, if a girl was with her boyfriend but her heart truly still longed for her ex-boyfriend. She could either stay with the boyfriend that she's maybe not too happy with or, make the hard decision and break up with him, thus breaking his heart, and go on to live her own version of happily ever after with her ex. 

Betty White, everyone's favourite 90-something year-old even went through this. While she was young, she was in love with a man but she didn't leave who she was with at the time for many years. When she and the man she truly loved got back together, she said that she always regretted the years that they didn't get to spend together. This, even more so now, is true as he eventually passed away. 

So, with stories like these being present in our own love stories, why, in this world, where we only have the chance to live once, do we sacrifice our happiness, and all because we're afraid of hurting someone's feelings? Why do we let the fear of walking away and taking a risk keep us from the chance to be the happiest we could be?

Jason could have kept on being with Melissa. Maybe they would stay together and live unhappily or maybe, like most 'Bachelor' couples, they would split up and by the time that Jason got out, maybe Molly would have already found someone else. Then, he would have lost his chance and forever lived with the hard regret of not following his heart. Now that's a tough pill to swallow. 

Instead, he took his life in his own hands by making the tough decision. The only thing he probably feels truly sorry for now is the fact that he did break Melissa's heart on national television (ABC producers must have been applauding behind the scenes). But, people move on from that. Life goes on. Melissa goes on. The true thing that matters is the fact that Jason can look down at his beautiful children and his wife, Molly, and know that he's living the life he truly wanted. With the woman he truly wanted. Now, how many people can say that? 

Tuesday, September 27, 2016

It's Possible For Him To Fall Back In Love With You

You wouldn’t think that you would need advice on how to make your man fall in love with you once he’s already been, but as we know, relationships can be unpredictable. Maybe the trust was broken somewhere down the line, or things began to grow stale – whatever it is, you’re at the point in your so-called “relationship” where you’re holding onto something that’s changed. Something that feels foreign and strange.

Even when you look at your boyfriend, your best friend, you feel different. There’s a distance there, and distances like these often go both ways. If you were the one who screwed things up, then you feel like the whole relationship is weighing on your shoulders and it’s now your turn to ensure that you do whatever you can to fix it. Because being without him is no life at all. And so, you try and try, but the more you try, the more distant you feel.

It’s strange, but you shouldn’t have to try so hard. If it was this hard to fall in love in the first place, then it never would have happened at all. And so, take a step back, and remember who you used to be. Remember the girl he fell in love with. The girl he couldn’t get enough of as he texted you whenever he could, kept you awake at night when you should have been sleeping, and kept a smile on your face even when he wasn’t around.

And remember, it goes both ways. Even if it was just you who managed to bring the relationship into the gutter, he should still try to salvage it. Because you would be gone by now if this was a relationship not worth fighting for. So think back to how natural it was to fall in love, before the days where you let mistrust, anger, jealousy or boredom get in the way of something great. You would think before you spoke, always respected them and did whatever you could to make them happy.

You were you. Carefree and wonderful and not weighed down by our own insecurities. Laidback, easygoing. You made him fall in love with you because you were being you. So remember that as you move forward and try to bring some normality back into the swing of things. You may soon find that not only do you get the love back, but you get it back deeper. More intimidate. More full of passion. More full of the willingness to never let it get to this point ever again.

You got this.

Friday, May 6, 2016

Get Ready For Summertime with COIN's Latest Release, "Talk Too Much"

Via: atwoodmagazine.com

When I first discovered the Nashville-based band, COIN, last year, I knew it was fate. One listen of their incredibly catchy and feel-good song, "Run," and I was hookedcome to think of it, I think all it took was 10 seconds of listening to know that they would soon become one of my favourite bands. 

So when they began teasing the release of their new song, "Talk Too Much," on their Facebook and Snapchat pages, I listened to those snippets over and over until I couldn't get enough. And then, like the angels they are, they released the song one day early. 

It's catchy, feel-good, and will have you feeling all the #summertimefeels. Take a listen below to see just why these guys are becoming unstoppable in the indie music world. 

Wednesday, May 4, 2016

What To Do With These 'Back of Your Mind' Guys?

When I say 'back of your mind,' it might sound as though I'm saying these are the guys in your life who you don't care much about. When, in fact, it's the exact opposite. These are the guys in your life who because you care so much, you've had to push thoughts of them away for so long. 

Maybe it's because you're in a relationship, because they hurt you one too many times, or because you're simply trying to just forget. 

But the one at your back of your mind, might be there forever. Just think of any Nicholas Sparks movie. If Allie in the Notebook had never gone back and fallen in love again with Noah, he would always be a thought at the back of her mind. He was who she thought of as she said yes to her proposal, who she thought of whenever a man took interest in her and who she thought of as she tried on her wedding dress and saw a picture of him in the paper. If she didn't care about him, if his presence on her mind didn't bother her that much, then she would have closed the paper and continued to with her day, with her wedding. With her life. 

That's the funny thing about these guys' at the back of our minds. They're often there for a reason, yet there are plenty of more reasons to stay away. We think of them as our "Noah," as the cliche, "one that got away," and spend late nights creeping their social media profiles, wondering what they're up to, texting them sometimes when we're drunk and in the midst of bad fights with our current lovers, wonder if they're out there somewhere, thinking of us, too. 

These thoughts then turn to guilt as we feel like bad boyfriends or girlfriends. Will we ever take the chance and try to reclaim what once was? In this case, only time will tell. 

Thursday, April 7, 2016

Scarlett Johansson's Advice On Love That You Need To Read

ScarJo...pixie-haired lady..Doctor of Love...whatever you call her, one thing is clear: she knows a thing or two about love. 

In her new interview with Cosmopolitan, she went deep into the matters of the heart and revealed that even the bombshell herself has had to go through a few tough heartbreaks until she found the one for her. 

"Long, long ago, I had someone in my life who was forever unavailable . . . but, like, so attractively unavailable. You have to get to your breaking point . . . rock bottom is the moment when you're like, 'I've lost myself. Why am I standing outside this bar at 1:30 in the morning texting while my friends are inside? Or taking a taxi to see him at some ungodly hour? This isn't me.' That is the moment you've gotta cut it off. Otherwise, it will keep coming back, suck your blood."
She got out of it, of course, as she is now married and has a baby with the love of her life, but her advice is so spot on, as far too many girls go through pain like this, and for someone who could care less about them. It's never easy to let go, but I always think of it like this: imagine your relationship is a rope and you're holding on and holding on, with the weight at the end of that rope being your relationship. Once your man checks out, it's just you holding on and your fingers start to bleed and it weighs heavily on you that you're doing the work all alone. There comes a point, where you must let go and move on. Far too many girls have a tough time with this, instead staying in those dead-end relationships that could be better described as "relationsh*ts." 

So ladies, if you're reading and currently in a situation like this, listen to our girl ScarJo and move on. You deserve someone who will be outside the club, waiting to pick you up at 1:30 a.m. and someone who will always text you back, no matter what. 

Saturday, March 26, 2016

Tea for every occasion

I am a huge tea lover. To me, it's like a warm hug to the soul, and it can be an amazing go-to for any health ailment you have. Feeling sick? Have some tea. Anxious? Drink, honey. Here's my list of favourite teas at the moment (though I'm sure I'll always add more!)


This type of tea is so soothing and relaxing. Whenever I'm having a stressful day, I push aside my longing for a glass of wine and go for something healthier. It has a great flavour, smells amazing and you feel the effects right away. Tip: try and find one with lavender as that also has calming properties. 


I am a huge lover of peppermint, whether it's a tea flavour or not, so give this one a try. It's good for stomach and digestion problems, and the flavour of it is one tea that you'll want to add sugar or stevia too if you want something sweeter. 


If you have a cold or digestive problems, this is the tea for you. The flavour is quite strong, but you push past that just knowing the health benefits it's giving you. Try and buy a medicine version of this tea for the most effect.

White chocolate peppermint

Nothing quite gets me in the holiday spirit like a cup of white chocolate peppermint tea. I get mine from Teavana, and while it's pretty pricy, I consider it so worth it when you're all cuddled up, warm and cozy next to the Christmas tree. 

What are some of your favourites?

Tuesday, February 9, 2016

Mood Board: Black and White Summer

Pinterest provides me with an array of inspiration each and every day, and lately I've been filling up my summer and photography boards. They've got me so tickled for summer and the black and white delicate and raw photographs speak to me like poetry. Here's my latest mood board. 

Friday, September 25, 2015

Feeling bored? Write

When I'm bored, my options are usually between Netflix, reading or writing. The only problem is, every time I find myself reading, I become so inspired and drop the book I'm reading right then and start writing. 

This is what happened last night. It's just a random story I began. Take a read and comment if you'd like to see more!

Tuesday, September 15, 2015

20 Things to Love About Fall

There is just something about fall that makes me well, fall, in love with it. Yes, it's sad that summer is over, but I can't deny my excitement towards the crisp leaves on the ground, the start of a new yeara fresh startand, of course, the return of pumpkin spice lattes. 

Without further ado, here's 20 things to love about fall:

1) Pumpkin Spice lattes tops the list, duh. 
2) The smell in the air
3) Holidays: Thanksgiving and Halloween
4) Going Apple-picking
5) Eating lots of pie
6) Getting cozy with a warm blanket and a cup of tea
7) Not having the heat sweat your makeup off
8) Two words: fall fashion.
9) Wearing lots of cozy, warm layers
10) Cooking in your crock pot
11) Visiting a farmer's market for local produce
12) leaves crunching under your feet
13) Wearing cute scarves
14) Enjoying a cup of hot apple cider
15) Hearty soups
16) Candles flickering
17) Fall decorations like pumpkins, leaves, wreathes, etc
18) Not dying in the heat
19) New TV shows and the return of favourite ones
20) The beginning of hibernation with lots of cozy blankets, snacks and Netflix

What other things do you love about fall?

Monday, September 14, 2015

You Now Have to Pay to Keep Up With the Kardashians

As if we couldn't keep up with the Kardashian's anymore than we can (and want to), Kylie, Khloe and Kim have just released their online websites and accompanying apps - but there's a catch. That's right, we have to shovel out even more money to this family through the "unlocking" feature that allows users to watch beauty and fitness tutorials, behind-the-scene photographs and more - and all for $2.99 a month. 

I did a read through Kim's Facebook post, where she announced her site was live and misspelled the word 'creating' for 'curating' LOL. Many people felt the same way I did, which included responses like, "who the hell would pay for this?"

Though we all know that people sadly will. People like them are the reason why we can't have nice things. 

What are you thoughts on it?

Monday, August 24, 2015

10 Most Fashionable Boots For Fall

While I am sad over the thought of summer soon being over, I can't help but start getting excited over all the chic fall fashion trends I can take part in. There's fedora hats, scarves upon scarves, layers, knit sweaters and of course, not having to worry about your hair becoming frizzy or your makeup practically sweating off. 

With that being said, fall fashion also extends to cute boots of all kindsheeled, over-the-knee, cute booties... the options are endless, but here, find 10 of the most fashionable boots that you will most definitely see strutting around the streets come September. 

1) Heeled Booties

2) Leather heeled boots

3) Platform boots

4) Over-the-knee low-heel boots

5) Fringed booties

6) Wedged boots

7) Over-the-knee high heeled boots

8) All-black heeled boots

9) Ankle boots

10) Flat boots

Saturday, August 22, 2015

30 Romantic Things Only Gentlemen Do

Let's face it: romance has slipped throughout the years after the invention of cellphones. People rarely chat during dates, relationships are being ended through "ghosting," and gone were the days where a woman waited anxiously for the guy she likes to finally call. 

Well, to be fair, romance isn't entirely dead (yay!). There are still plenty of gentlemen who will keep it old school for you. Here's 30 of the most romantic and aww-inducing things only this special breed of men does. 

1) Holds your hand while driving
2) Kisses your nose and forehead
3) Holds doors open for you
4) Plans special dates out of the blue
5) Surprises you with flowers 'just cause'
6) Calls you "beautiful" instead of just "sexy" or "hot"
7) Defends you no matter what
8) Stands up to the guy who won't leave you alone
9) Brings a bottle of wine to dinner with your parents
10) Spoils you endlessly on your birthday
11) Comes to your door carrying a giant teddy bear or balloon
12) Kisses you in the rain
13) Sings to you, even though he's shy
14) Tells you he loves you all the time
15) Let's you pick the movie, even if its a chick-flick
16) Actually wants to do Netflix & Chill 
17) Tries to get to know your friends
18) Takes you dancing
19) Writes you love letters
20) Makes you a mixtape
21) Doesn't check out other girls
22) Texts you cute "good morning, beautiful" texts
23) Let's you control the radio in his car
24) Laughs when he thinks you're being adorable
25) Listens to you when you vent 
26) Cuddles you when you cry
27) Travels far just to see you again
28) Makes you dinner
29) Brings you chocolate just because
30) Is undeniably and unforgivingly in love with you

Decor Tips for an Inspired Home

Photo via stylizimoblog.com

While your home serves as a place of relaxation and comfort for preparing for another day's work, it should also serve as a creative space where you can become inspired enough to kick butt in every area of your life. Here, take a look at four different ways to add some serious inspiration into your decor palette. 

Use pops of colours

Photo via noordinaryhome.com


Inspirational signs

An organized space

Photo via diy.allwomenstalk.com

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